Married to a Pro Athlete

5 Life Lessons I’ve Learned Being Married to a Pro Athlete


If being married to a pro athlete has taught me anything, it’s been a few life lessons about not sweating the small stuff, being present, and so much more…

I’ll be honest, since Chris and I first started dating when we were in High School, I always believed that he would play pro someday. It’s been his dream since he was young, and I’ve had a hell of a time supporting him and watching him grow throughout the years.

Never though, would I have imagined how exciting and challenging the life of a pro athlete actually is. Playing a professional sport takes so much more sacrifice than I think we both ever realized. The time, physical, and mental commitment is seriously no joke.

Although we’re just getting started, I wanted to share some of the great life lessons we’ve learned so far in this journey of Chris being a professional soccer player, and I, being his support system.

Lessons I’ve Learned Being Married to a Pro Athlete

1. Family Over Everything

You don’t need to be a pro athlete for this lesson, or really any of the lessons in this post, but I think this life has taught us these things very thoroughly so far. The number one thing we’ve both learned from the beginning was that family is the most important thing.

Since pro athletes are limited on free time throughout the year, it’s important to maximize the time we have with family when it does come. We’ve learned to cherish moments together with our loved ones, especially after realizing that time is limited and not always promised.

As we all know, pro athletes have fans and they have critics. What we’ve learned from the beginning was that no matter what everyone else thinks of you or says about you, at the end of the day you’ll always have your family. It doesn’t matter how many goals you score, how much money you make, or whether or not you start a game. Your family is always going to be there with you and support you no matter what, which is why it’s vital to always put family first. This concept has been really reassuring and promising for us and our mental health.

2. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

If being married to a pro athlete has taught me anything, it’s to not sweat the small stuff. The thing is that, unlike most demanding jobs, athletes are not only mentally strained from work, but physically too. Their rest and sleep are just as important, if not more than their actual training. So if Chris’s career has taught me anything about life and marriage, it’s to not sweat the small stuff. Not only with your spouse but in your day-to-day life as well, pick and choose your battles.

If someone cuts you off in traffic, just let it go. Your energy reserve is limited and wasting it on pointless things like being irritable about things that don’t matter just simply isn’t worth it. Plus, it’s important to save your energy for things that actually do matter. In Chris’s case, performing during his game each week. It’s important for both of us to protect our energy and not worry about the tiniest of annoyances. Simply letting things go and living in the moment has been really beneficial for both of us, individually and as a couple.

3. Nothing Ever Goes As Planned

The family of ANY pro athlete will agree with this statement. Not only is it so incredibly true about the life and career of an athlete, but this is true about life in general. I can’t even begin to tell you how many times we have thought of this master plan for Chris’s career (ie. Where he would play next, when he would leave, when he would heal from an injury, etc.) and it didn’t end up playing out that way. Several of his teammates and their families have shared the same predicaments with us over the years as well. They had this great plan drawn up in their head and then things took a turn and ended up playing out very differently.

Not only has this concept played out in his career many times, but it’s played out in our lives as well. I, being someone who is a planner, had our whole wedding planned out for 2020. Then, 2020 hit and had different plans. Our whole blueprint of everything we wanted for our wedding was swiped away and we had to start from scratch with the circumstances of the pandemic.

Even though I’m a planner, this life has definitely taught me to make plans with a grain of salt, and use them as a guide rather than an end-all-be-all. It’s important when things take a turn or life gets off track, to remain flexible and patient with the process. Most importantly though, to trust God and know that He has the Master Plan. His plan is above all other plans we create, no matter how perfect they may seem in our heads.

4. Nothing’s For Sure Until It’s in Writing

Similar to the last lesson, we’ve learned many times in this career that nothing is for sure until it’s in writing. That’s just the honest truth. Whether it’s a contract, a sponsorship, or a paid opportunity, we’ve learned that it’s all just talk until it’s written in pen. Then you can get excited about it. We’ve made the mistake of sharing exciting news with friends and family in the past, just for it to end up not playing out.

Not only for pro athletes but in general life as well. it’s important to wait to get really excited, tell people about an opportunity, or start planning your life around something until it’s for sure. Whether this is a big sale you’re about to close, a new job opportunity, or even being pregnant. Whatever the big news is, I’ve learned that it’s best to wait to share until it’s in writing and 100% confirmed.

5. All We Have is the Present

Another thing the pro athlete life has taught us is that you can’t dwell on the past or worry about the future. The past is over, and the future may never come. All we have is the exact moment we are sitting in. This right here is the only time we have any control over and can really do anything about.

By over planning the future, we increase our anxiety because there are infinite possibilities of what it can look like. By living in the past, we don’t allow ourselves to grow or take responsibility for our actions in the here are now.

I hope you liked this post about the Lessons I’ve Learned Being Married to a Pro Athlete! Let me know if you’d like more of these types of posts in the comments below!

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